I’ve blogged a little in the past few months about lots of things that I wish I had a time turner for, aka time machine Harry Potter style. Being a bride is a flurry of advice given to you that you’ve not asked for, articles on Pinterest telling you how to plan your wedding, and tackling emails upon emails from vendors. Okay, those are just the not so fun parts of being a bride :] As much as there are tons of things that I wish I could go back and redo….there’s also a lot that I’m glad we did. So today, I’m taking a quick moment to share some of the best advice we received for our wedding week.
“Go on a date.”
It was that simple, really. I didn’t give any thought to it. When people I trust give me advice, I often just listen and take action, not really wondering why. So when the Sunday before our wedding came, and I furiously to-do listed absolutely EVERYTHING that needed to be done before our rehearsal on Friday (hint: it was a lot), I penciled in a date with David on Wednesday night. It felt a little silly, knowing that soon we’d have forever to spend together, and knowing how much time I did not have left to finish my crazy DIY centerpieces….but somehow we made it work.
So in the middle of the craziest, emotional week ever, we went on a simple date. David came and picked me up from our new house that I was living in and that he would move into after the wedding and we tried to look a little fancy. For us, in 2012, our outfits below were pretty fancy 🙂 We went to Olive Garden, obviously, and sat down and shared dinner and dessert together. And it was truly the best thing ever.
When you’re wedding planning it is SO easy to forget WHY you’re wedding planning. You get caught up in DIYs and comparison and meltdowns over the guest list and you forget that all of this is happening because you are going to marry the love of your life. It’s easy to forget about the marriage. And this date, no wedding talk allowed, allowed me to reprioritize and just savor those last few not-married moments with David. We finally got to talk about what it was going to be like to be married, what we were most excited for, and to just talk about life…instead of all the wedding craziness that filled our conversations for months upon months.
Sitting down to this date was like a breath of fresh air in the middle of a storm of to do lists. And it is my favorite thing that we did during wedding week. It’s why I send out a card to all of my brides encouraging them to take a break from planning, and date their fiancé.
You’ve got the rest of your life to be together. But I will always treasure David knocking on the door one last time to pick me up, and spending an evening where we were SO full of anticipation for what was to come.
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